It is natural to avoid conflict. Whenever you disagree with someone, you may get an uneasy feeling. If someone fusses at you about something you did, you may find it hard to stand up for yourself. Whenever your child is going through a rough period, you may want to rush to his aid so that he doesn’t feel the pain. But think about it, does your life improve when you shy away from the uncomfortable?
There are numerous stories about people who become stronger as a result of the battles they’ve fought. They find a way to muster the confidence that they can get through whatever life throw their way. While your first impulse may be to avoid anything that is uncomfortable, facing your fears and believing that you have the power within you to overcome them has numerous benefits. If you haven’t tried it, you don’t know what you’re missing!
Satisfaction of Accomplishment
Whether you succeed or not when standing up for yourself, you will get a rush of “I feel good” just for staying in the fight instead of running away. You know that good feeling you get when you help out someone else? Well, standing up for yourself is like helping yourself out. What better benefit than to help out the most important person in your life – you!
Courage to Do It Again
Once you discover that going through your rough period was not so bad, you gain the courage to do it again. You realize that “I can do this” and you may be thankful for the opportunity to show what it was you could do. You have changed the “I can’t” to “I can!” How empowering is that?
Having Good Feelings about Yourself
When you don’t stand up for yourself, what thoughts are going through your mind? You probably think things like “nobody likes me” or “people don’t respect me.” For the most part, the thoughts are negative. Try to remember that sense of accomplishment you felt when you successfully went through a struggle. If you can focus on what went well, you’ll begin to have more positive thoughts about yourself. Slowly, those negative messages will dissipate.
Reduce Fear of Failures
Do you ever feel that everything you do has to be perfect? That can seriously hold you back because you will be reluctant to try new things for fear of failure. But, if you don’t make the effort, how are you going to learn? How do you grow if you don’t push yourself? You can begin to face those fears by changing your mindset to praise the effort instead of merely focusing on the end result. And, if you can learn to find humor in your setbacks, so much the better!
Comfort that Your Child is Learning Life Skills
One of the best things you can do for your children is to allow them to fail. You then teach them that failing is an important part of life. You can also reassure them that you will be there by their sides if they need help to pick up the pieces. Show your love for your children by teaching them that they have the power within them to overcome life’s obstacles. Then, cherish the joy on their faces when they realize that they did it!
So, don’t run away from the uncomfortable things that come your way. Take the challenge and get into the battle. By empowering yourself to face the struggle, you may surprise yourself and it just may change your life.